Going Whole Hug
I went on four dates with this woman – each ending in no more than a hug and a kiss on her cheek. She seemed to have fun, yet stopped returning my calls. This isn't the first time something seemingly good fizzled on me. –Flummoxed
The woman you go out with four times and only kiss on the cheek and hug goodbye is the woman you call Mom. There's an epidemic of men who need to get the message you do: “Testicles! They're not just for decoration anymore!” It isn't entirely men's fault. Feminist academia pushed a message that caught on wide – that men should feel ashamed for being male and that male sexuality is basically rape lite. This led some men to hold off on making moves on a woman, thinking it was the nice, polite thing to do. Some other men realized it's also a great way to spin acting wimpy as a form of respect. Now, it's possible this woman just wasn't that into you, but maybe she might've been – a few dates back – but found you about as sexually aggressive as a couch cushion. If things are going well on a first date, state your intentions by trying to kiss the woman. She can say no, and you should respect that, but by trying, you've told her something important: that your interest goes beyond financing her appletinis and sitting by your phone waiting for her to never call you again.